Can You Be Too Positive?

When you are disabled or chronically ill people often expect you to be positive all the time and the moment you show any signs of negativity your Facebook wall will start blowing up with inspiration! Positivity is something we can all work on but there is such a thing as being too positive and when you start to blow up someone’s Facebook wall with inspirational quotes because they said something slightly negative it will leave no impact on a person but may, in fact, have the reverse effect.  Personally, I think inspiration can help some people so I do it on some of my blog accounts to keep everyone motivated but if someone is hurting I steer clear of that because it isn’t helpful and can get kind of annoying. Helping your friends through a difficult time can change how they look at life but can also leave no impact at all if you don’t what you are talking about and aren’t quite clear on the differences between positivity, negativity, and toxic positivity. What is toxic positivity? There is a big difference between people who are genuinely positive and ones that shove inspiration down your throat so don’t confuse the two because they are not the same. People that are telling you like it is and spreading positivity are making an impact and everyone else is not. Knowing the differences positivity, toxic positivity and negativity are super important if you ever want to ever make an impact on someone’s life so let’s talk a little bit about the differences so you can change someone’s life.

What is toxic positivity?- It is okay to not be okay but some people don’t believe that and will block out all negative emotions because they are convinced everyone and everything can and should be made positive regardless of what their situation is.  Sometimes you are just in a bad situation and there isn’t anything positive about that situation but some people are unwilling to accept that and will find something positive about their situation even if they have to create out of thin air or it’s the smallest thing that wouldn’t matter to most people. Negativity isn’t acceptable for some people so all things must be made possible!

Examples of Toxic positivity:

Validation of Hope

I understand things are hard right now but we can get through this together.

I know there is a lot of things that could go wrong but think of all the things that could go right.

Sometimes life can get hard and we want to give up. It’s okay to not be okay just remember I am always here for you!

I know that it is really hard to be positive right now but just know that I am thinking about you and hope that things get better for you soon.

Everyone has bad days and it’s okay to not be okay! Your feelings are validating whether or not they are positive or negative.

Toxic Positivity:

It’s just a phase and you’ll get over it!

Just be positive

Never give up!

Think happy thoughts!

Good Vibes Only

What does it mean to be positive? Positivity doesn’t mean to blow up someone’s newsfeed with inspirational quotes because anyone can do that it’s not rocket science. A positive person can take a very negative situation and find something good about it but also knows that sometimes it’s hard and that’s okay because not always will things be good. We do our try hard to make the best of a negative situation and that’s all we can but it doesn’t make these negative situations any better it just helps when you look at them differently. Shoving positivity down someone’s throat may seem like it’s the answer to help someone change but it’s the pure definition of toxic positivity and will only make people not take you seriously because you will be the person that is known as the one who shoves positive down your throat and you will never make an impact that way. If you think someone needs a more positive impact in their life be the example because if you are leading a life that someone wants to live they will likely eventually follow in your footsteps. As a disabled blogger, I get all kinds of inspiration from people whenever they think my posts are slightly negative, and never have these posts resonated with me or do I even take a minute to think about them. Learn the difference between positivity and toxic positivity because as soon as you know the difference it will be easy to make an impact! Are you positive or are you guilty of toxic positivity?

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