In the New Year, people like to make new goals but unfortunately, most of them will fail within a month or two because of unrealistic goals they set for themselves. There is no better feeling than reaching a goal that you have been working so hard for so long and finally achieving that goal. If you have been working towards a goal and have not been successful it can be a little disheartening and make you wonder why you even try to work towards anything. Why can some people crush goals and others have the most difficult time sticking to their new goals? The difference between people who crush goals and those who don’t are some people have more realistic goals than others. I almost laugh at some of the New Year’s Resolutions because as much as you may want to reach some of these goals and believe that it’s going to happen it’s quite ambitious of you to think that. A good goal is something that you can stick to and build on long term because if you give up after two weeks it’s just a wish! It is good to set goals for yourself because helps you grow but most people don’t know how to set realistic goals and will say crazy things at the beginning of the year that we all know will never happen. In this post, I am going to talk about why you may not be reaching your goals and how to fix them.
Your fitness goals are strictly for vanity– Fitness is one of the most common New Years Resolutions but it is also one of the goals people will quit first because a lot of people aren’t really ready to start a fitness journey. It’s important to make fitness goals for yourself because without challenges you will never grow. I create fitness goals to improve my strength but never will you hear me talk about a fitness goal that is strictly for vanity. The mistake that I see many beginners make when starting a fitness journey is doing it only because they are unhappy with themselves and to look a certain way. There is nothing wrong with wanting to look good because I want that too but it’s not all about looks. You will eventually get those bigger arms and be like now what? Some people can work out for vanity because that is their motivation but most people can’t and need a deeper reason for starting a fitness journey. Working out is something that we all should do to improve our physical health if you can but let’s be real it’s not at the top of everyone’s list! Fitness needs to have purpose because if you don’t know why you want to do it you will never be motivated. When I first started working out I had a really hard time with exercises and could not motivate myself to do them for the life of me because I was exercising for the wrong reasons. I did not prioritize exercise and there were many times I convinced myself that I didn’t need to work out because I was disabled and was basically doing it all the time. It wasn’t until I changed my view about fitness and my reason for working out that I was more motivated to do it.
You don’t have a strong why – When you see someone crushing goals you may think that person is naturally gifted at that skill and you could never be like that. People you see crushing goals don’t just wake up one day and decide they are going to run a marathon and make it happen in two weeks. They have a plan on how they want to execute their goals and have a strong why for when life happens and you hit a plateau. There will be days where you feel like throwing in the towel and quitting and you will if you don’t remind yourself of your why. I have had many days in my blogging and fitness journey where I felt stuck and if I didn’t remind myself of my why I probably would have quit. Write down you’re why and put it somewhere that you will see every day to remind yourself why you started so you don’t quit. Your why is not strong enough or you have the wrong goal if you still question yourself after reading it.
You have poor sleep and nutrition- People often underestimate how poor sleep and nutrition can have an impact on your motivation. Whenever I didn’t sleep well I am not motivated to work towards my strength goals and the only thing I am motivated to do is watch Netflix! I have tried to write blog posts when I get only four to five hours of sleep but it usually doesn’t happen and I almost always come up with blanks because your body needs sleep to function at its best. I can do some stuff when I don’t sleep well but it’s not done nearly as productive as when I did sleep well because don’t feel as sluggish and have more energy. You can get stuff done with poor eating and sleeping habits but you will get about half as much done as someone who ate a healthy meal and slept eight hours. If you are struggling with motivating yourself to do simple things look at your eating and sleep schedule because that may be the problem. Whenever I didn’t sleep well I crave more sugar than I normally would which can be a problem if you are trying to eating healthier.
You set the standards too high– The biggest mistake I see people making when creating goals is they set the standards way too high for themselves. When you set goals ask yourself is this realistic and with hard work can I achieve it in a year? Most people set goals that are way out there and are not possible to achieve in a year so they feel discouraged and eventually give up. Your goals need to feel like they are reachable because if it’s not you won’t stick to them for long and will eventually go back to your old ways.
When you set a goal that you so badly want to reach it can be discouraging when you don’t reach the goals you are trying so hard to achieve. Most people are able to reach their Year’s Resolutions and the problem is they give up too soon or think they can’t when it’s actually a reachable goal. If your goal is totally reachable you have to believe in yourself because if you don’t believe in yourself why should others believe in you? A challenging goal will not be easy to reach and it shouldn’t be but once you get there it will be worth it. If your goal does not make you want to jump out of bed in the morning it’s not a good goal and you should choose another one because goals like that set you up for failure. You should feel excited about the process because if you hate it and it’s like pulling teeth you’ll never do it. People often rush goals and want results as quickly as possible and if they don’t get them within the first two weeks of starting they quit. You will never accomplish anything if you always quit because sometimes it takes a really long time before you start to see progress but you will never accomplish anything if you quit before you give yourself time to see results. If you fail reset your goals a little bit lower next time and try again because failure happens to all of us. Failure is not necessarily a bad thing but a sign that you are trying! Do you struggle with reaching your goals?
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