What I Do When My Disability Makes Me Angry And Frustrated

When you have a physical disability, everything in life is hard, and sometimes you get angry and frustrated with things that a non-disabled person wouldn’t struggle with. Non-disabled people often expect disabled people to be happy all the time, and when we show any kind of frustration, they tell us that we should be more positive. Everyone gets frustrated with things and sometimes yells things that should not be repeated. It is always funny to me when non-disabled people are surprised when disabled people get angry with the challenges of their disability. There is nothing wrong with getting angry and frustrated with your disability, but it is so important that we don’t take out our frustration on others and learn healthy ways to manage our anger. Violence is never the answer and will only land you in jail or anger management classes. As a physically disabled person, I get frustrated with my disability every single day because sometimes I face every barrier and wish that my disability would go away, and I have been forced to learned ways to deal with that frustration. How do I manage my anger when I am frustrated with my disability? In this post, I am going to talk about a few things that I do when I am angry and frustrated with my disability.

I lift weights when I am frustrated– Strength training has so many benefits, and anyone who is able should do some kind of resistance training a couple of days a week. I strength train to keep my muscles strong because when I am strong, my life as a physically disabled person is a little easier, and I depend less on others. Strength training is not just for joint health, but it can also be a great stress reliever and is a great thing to do if you are angry or frustrated. If I am angry and frustrated with my disability, sometimes I will go and lift weights because there is something about doing a few air punches with weights that helps me forget about why I was frustrated and release some of that anger. Exercise releases endorphins, and I always strength train when I am angry or anxious and almost immediately feel better after I am done because strength training makes me happier. Lifting weights is a healthy way to get out your anger while also getting in some exercise.

Go for a walk- Strength training is something that I personally like to do when I am frustrated, but it is not an option for everyone because some people have disabilities where strength is an issue. If you are frustrated with your disability, and strength training is not your thing, walking is a great alternative. It allows you to clear your head and forget about the thing you were struggling with. You don’t have to walk if you are not able and can take your wheelchair for a stroll around your neighborhood. If I am frustrated with my disability, sometimes I will take a break and go for a walk or sit outside because sometimes you have to take a step back and walk away from life’s problems for a little while in order to come up with a solution to that problem. Walking can help you clear your head and calm down if you are upset, because sometimes all you need is a break.

Sometimes I will listen to music- I love listening to music because it helps me forget about my pain, and I listen to music for several hours a day to distract myself from the pain I am experiencing. Music isn’t just for people in pain, but it can also be a great distraction if you are angry or upset. If I am frustrated with my disability, sometimes I will put my headphones on and listen to my favorite band, and it helps calm me down almost instantly because I can listen to music all day long. Put on your favorite band, and start dancing because it can help distract you and improve your mood.

I sometimes will watch a funny movie- When I am frustrated with my disability, depending on the task, I sometimes will stop what I am doing and turn on a funny TV show or movie. Watching something funny can help lift your mood because it makes you laugh and distracts you from what made you angry. There are times when I am frustrated with my disability and am not in a situation where I can turn on my TV, and in those instances, I usually get on social media and watch a silly video because most of the time I have access to my phone.

I sometimes will call a friend- If I am frustrated with my disability, I won’t usually call one of my non-disabled sisters because they won’t understand my frustration and probably give me unhelpful advice. I will call or text my disabled friends who may not completely understand what I am going through, but do have some understanding because they are also disabled and have struggles. Sometimes all you need is a friend to rant to who will validate your feelings and listen instead of telling you to be more positive.

Disabled people often get frustrated more often than non-disabled people because everything in our lives is hard. There is nothing wrong with being frustrated with your disability because disabled people are allowed to be angry and frustrated with their disabilities. It is so important that you find healthy ways to control that anger because taking it out on the people around you is not a solution and will only negatively affect the relationship you have with them. Disabled people sometimes get stressed more often than non-disabled people because of our disabilities, and you have to find ways to manage that anger. If you don’t, the anger will build up, and you may find yourself doing things that you regret. These are things that I personally do when I am angry and frustrated with my disability, but not everyone is going to do the same things as I, and that is okay. Find something that helps you relieve stress that doesn’t harm anyone, because there are so many healthy ways to manage your anger. How do you control your anger when you are frustrated with your disability? If you liked this post, please leave a comment below and share it with your friends.

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